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How to deal with your Kid’s Temper Tantrums?

I was in my room when my son was crying lying on the floor trying to hit his head and fist on the ground simply because I told him not to eat ice-cream as it is time to go to bed. His face was turned red with a purple tint and all the family members were looking at me as if I am responsible for it. I think all the mothers who are reading it right now must have experienced this once in your motherhood period. If not, then you should “Thank god”. This is the first time it happened which made me think why my child is throwing Tantrums and how as a mother I can control his meltdowns.
Do you know what Tantrums are?
Tantrum is an uncontrollable fit of anger and frustration which is very common in the age group of 1-4. It could be screaming, stiffening lungs, banging their head or fist, yelling, hitting, kicking and stomping. Most of the children are prone to these tantrum triggers. According to the psychological research, children who are more hyperactive and very moody are more prone to these Tantrums and Meltdown. It happens when the child completely gets flowed by the emotions and can’t control their bodily actions. In simplest word, it is taking out their frustration and a way to demand certain things (like mummy will buy me a toy if I start screaming here).
So now the main question arises as how to handle these Tantrums?
One of the easiest ways to get hold of these Tantrums is by giving them what they want. It may sound easy, but this strategy won’t do any good in the long run as your child will continuously follow this method in order to demand various things. The best way is to control your temper first. This is what I usually follow when my kid throws tantrums. I know its not easy as I always find myself in a very strenuous situation. But believe me screaming at each other won’t solve any problem. I have heard mothers thrashing their kids when they don’t follow what they are meant to. But this is also not a good option as it will make their Tantrums worse. The only way I have learned during my course of motherhood period is to maintain patience and take a deep breath to gain control over the emotions and calmly try to explain what’s right and wrong. It is important as a parent to be coolheaded while disciplining the child. I know that Tantrums are hard to understand and harder to deal with and much harder to prevent it.
Even if your child throws Tantrums and does not calm down, don’t worry, the child is doing this to gain attention. Just don’t give in. Even if your child is screaming and yelling lying on the floor, don’t be ashamed of what people might be thinking when you are dragging your child out of the supermarket. You just need to stick to your conviction that whatever you are doing is right for your kid. The child will ultimately learn that throwing tantrums wont help in getting what they want and will stop screaming eventually.
Sometimes there occur a situation where the child is unable to control the emotions and has a complete meltdown. It is very challenging to comfort the baby who loses his/her senses. The only way to calm the child is to hold him/her tightly trying to pacify the situation and give a child a time out period to calm themselves down. Leave the child for approximately 5 minutes to let them cool down or have control over their emotions.
Dealing with the Tantrums are important and is necessary if your child is triggered by any obnoxious event.
How can we prevent them?
It is of utmost importance to prevent the Tantrums before it starts. We can prevent them by following some simple guidelines:
1. Communication: Communicating with the children is the key to avoid these situations. Don’t pre assume that your child may not understand anything you say. Tell your child the plan of the day and stick to your routine as possible.
2. Carry your child favorite toy: I have seen kids carrying their favorite soft toy to the school or other places. Ever wondered why? Carrying it along keeps them busy while you can run around for various errands. It is the only source of comfort in the surroundings which is new for them.
3. Make sure your child is full: Whenever you move out of the house, make sure you feed well to your child. The child must be well rested so that he/she should not burst with the slightest provocation.
4. Avoid changing routines: Carrying on the simple and daily routines helps the child to adjust and be calm. You should avoid changing routines and be consistent. Even if you change the routine or any activity, you should give 5 minutes of proclamation before changing anything for them to adjust.
5. Distract their Attention: The child’s attention is very easy to divert. If your child’s face begins to crimp and groove making their face red, you should understand that now it is the time to divert their attention to something else. It could be opening a book or taking them out to the park. You can tell a story or a joke to divert their mind from the thought that is causing them to unsettle.
6. Let them feel that they are the boss: Give your child a little bit of control over the situation. It will make them feel that they are the boss who have control over their own life. Doing this won’t make a much difference in your life but will change the whole world for the young mind. The child will be less fussy and will listen to what others say.
These small little tips can help your child be less finicky and be more understanding.
Remember: Tantrums are not usually the cause of concern and should stop on their own around the age of 4 years. As they grow, they learn self-control and can communicate well. If they happen to continue, then you must consult your doctor for further advice.
Hope you find this little piece useful and let me know how you have handled your child’s tantrums? Do share in the comment box below.
Happy parenting!!

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