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How to make bedwetting easier on you and your child.


You will probably potty train your child between the age if 2-4, but your child may still have a nighttime accident (Known as Bedwetting).

It is common as your child grow. It takes time for their body to develop the ability to wake up at night when their bladder is full. During this time, he may wet the bed up to 3-4 times each week.


                                                       What are the causes?

When your bladder is full, nerves signal the brain to tell you that its time for you to urinate. But for some kids, this signal does not wake them up.

Bedwetting can also happen because:

  1. Your child’s bladder is too small to hold the urine he/she makes at night
  2. Their nerves that signals a full bladder have not developed completely yet.
  3. They do not have enough hormone that limits the urine they make at night.
  4. When your child is constipated, which reduces space and puts pressure on the bladder.


As your child grows, whatever is the reason for causing this bedwetting will usually resolve on its own. You should remember that bedwetting is not your child’s fault. It is just a stage of development that he will eventually outgrow.

Most children who wet their bed are healthy. But sometimes bedwetting is also a sign of some serious health conditions. If you notice any other symptoms such as usual weigh loss, fatigue, daytime sleepiness along with bedwetting, be sure to consult your doctor.


                                       Reassure your child with these simple tips

Even though bedwetting usually isn’t a sign that something’s wrong, it can still be overwhelming and stressful for both you and your child. Your child may feel embarrassed, anxious or guilty about wetting the bed. Help reassure him with these tips:

  1. Be patient and supportive: Don’t punish your child or scold for wetting the bed(even if your laundry is piling up). Instead stay calm and remind your child that its not his/her fault. Also talk to your family members or to your other kids not to make fun of these bedtime accidents.


  1. Don’t make it a Big Deal: Lots of other kids wet the bed too. Maybe you did as a child. Maybe your child’s older sibling did. Share this with them so that they know that bedwetting is normal, often runs in families, and that their body will grow and learn to stop over time.


  1. Let your child help: If your child wants to strip the bed or carry wet clothes to the laundry, let them take the lead. Being responsible for some of the clean up may help your child feel like they have some control.


  1. Don’t keep your child from social activities: Your child can still go to camps or have sleepovers. To help ease your child’s concern about spending the night away from home, pack extra pajamas or disposable underpants your child can wear at night just in case. Explain to your child that they can put them on in the bathroom without letting anyone know. As a parent, you can also pack an extra bag in case your child needs to bring the wet clothes home. Also remind your child to go to the bathroom before he/she goes to sleep.

                                                      How to manage the accidents?

       Being prepared for an accident can help make things less stressful. Try these ideas out to help make the nights easier for both of you.

  1. Disposable Underwear: They looks like a real underwear and children ages 4 and older can comfortably wear them. They both absorb urine to help prevent leaks.


  1. Waterproof mattress cover or absorbent mat: This will help to keep your child’s mattress clean, dry and odor free.


  1. Odor protection: Rooms can smell even if you clean the accidents right away. Try using room Fresheners or odor -absorbing sprays.


  1. Extra pajamas: Lay these out each night so they’re ready if your child has an accident.


                                                                 What you can do?

Small changes in your child’s daily life can help her bedwetting. You don’t have to do all at once. Choose one of the simple steps to get started.

  1. Limit drink before bedtime: Some parents have found that keeping their child from overdrinking between dinner and bedtime helps with bedwetting. Give your child most of the fluids earlier in the day. After 5 pm, try to serve only one 8-ounce drink. Do not reduce the amount of fluids your child gets everyday overall. This leads to constipation or dehydration.


  1. Choose caffeine-free drink: Caffeine causes your body to make more urine in less time. Swap caffeinated sodas for water or milk (not chocolate milk- as chocolate too contains caffeine)


  1. Go to the bathroom before bed: If your child’s bladder is empty before bed, he/she will be less likely to have to go during the night. Create a bedtime routine for your child and include this step twice. For example: go to the bathroom first, before brushing teeth or Storytime. Then try to go to the bathroom again, right before your kids get into bed.


  1. Keep track: Write down your child’s habit to help you figure out if her bedwetting is linked to certain triggers or stressors. Use a bathroom dairy to record what and how much your child drink for at least a week. Also track any changes in routine at home or school. This can help you find patterns in what causes wet and dry nights.


Make sure your children know that while normally they need to be in the bed after the light out, it’s okay to get out of bed at night to go to the bathroom. Place nightlights so that they can find their way in the dark.

Give them the support and comfort they need; everything will eventually fall in its place. Happy Parenting!!


Photo by Andrea Piacquadio

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