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New Year Resolution No Mom should make

 

Doesn’t it feel like yesterday when 2019 heralded in? Now we are at the crossroad of the new year again where all the moms will be resolving to make this coming year more fruitful.

Maybe this is the year where you will loose some extra pounds that you gained during your pregnancy, organize your homes , take your time out , hit the gym to get back in shape, or balance your work life and responsibilities of the house.

Unfortunately, we often start with the best intention to achieve those but end up rarely achieving it. I am one of those guilty moms who is always over ambitious when it comes to new year resolution. But this year I am going to make the resolution that are attainable. Infact we should look for the improvement rather than perfection.

Here I am with the list of those new year resolution no mom should make.

I WILL STOP YELLING

Believe me it’s impossible. Its normal to lose our patience with our kids so we mothers need to accept that yelling happens! When mom lose their patience, the result is the raise voice which comes with the tremendous guilt.

Remember don’t be guilty instead when you are on the verge to lose your patience, just take a moment for yourself and take a deep breath. Not only it will help in winding up raising the voice but will also reduce your guilt.

I WILL STAY ON TOP OF THE HOUSEHOLD CHORES

When you have small kid at home, to stay on top of the household chores seems out of question. You can’t be doing laundry, cleaning bathroom, making food and playing with your children all together. It’s not even worth trying all of these.

Instead you should make a realistic plan. Make a calendar that you will be doing laundry every Tuesday, grocery shopping every Friday. When you make small and specific goals, it is easier to achieve.

I WILL SET GOOD EXAMPLE INFRONT OF THE KIDS

All parents want to be the role model for their children. You always want to set good example in front of your kids. But just close your eyes and think for a moment is it always possible? We are all under the societal surveillance whether we have kids or not. We all get tired, can have a bad day or can get crabby sometimes and can end up acting or saying something that we may regret later.

Its okay!!

Just forget everything and move forward. Your kid should be aware that we are all human beings and our emotions whether good, bad or ugly are part of life.

I WILL NEVER USE PHONE INFRONT OF MY KID

We always think that fixating on our phones when kids are around is not a good idea as they will learn the same thing. But sometimes its necessary when you need to call, text or mail someone. Don’t be afraid of picking up the phone. Just make the call and keep the phone away. Let your kids know that phone is there to call in need or some work rather than an instrument to interact socially.

Fix up a time when you can use your phone like at bedtime or when kids are out playing. Its just a matter of self-control and once you achieve this, there is no stepping back.

I WILL BE PRESENT AND PATIENT 24*7

Every mom is crazy about their children and when they come to playing with them, they end up playing any games. But sometimes those games are mind numbing for mothers and its not possible for them to engage fully.

Leave your phone aside when you are with your kid and engage fully in the conversation or playing with them. Give yourself a realistic time frame for playing games. Just live in the present with your little one, be lively. But when you are done, accept that you are. It would not be easy for you to get up and say to your child that “Now you can play on your own”. Instead accept to your child that your patience is waning, and you are tired result of which you are not able to engage full. It’s a good way to avoid feeling guilty.

 

This year let’s try some easier, gentle or more mindful resolution that are attainable. One that we can concentrate on and keep. And one in the end, may not make us slimmer but will make us better, happier and spiritually healthy moms. Wishing you all a very Happy New Year!!

 

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